You've Been Trying to Think Your Way Into a Different Experience
You know your patterns. You can articulate exactly what you do in relationships - how you lose yourself, how you override your own needs to keep her happy, how you say yes when you mean no, then resent her for things you never told her you needed.
You've studied this. You understand where it comes from. You know it's connected to your family, your childhood, the way you learned to navigate relationships decades ago.
But when you're actually in it - when she expresses a need, when conflict arises, when you feel that pull to abandon yourself - all that knowledge disappears.
You're back in the familiar pattern, wondering why you can't just do what you know you should do.
The Problem Isn't That You Don't Know Enough
The problem is that knowing lives in your head, but your nervous system is running a completely different program.
Your body learned what relationships mean long before you had language for it. You absorbed the "vibe" of your household—how your parents related, what closeness felt like, whether you were safe to be yourself, what you had to do to get attention.
Those patterns are stored somatically. Which is why:
You can know she's not trying to suffocate you, but your chest still tightens when she gets close
You can know you should set boundaries, but something in you shuts down when it's time to speak
You can know this woman is healthy for you, but you feel nothing - while the ones who aren’t treating you like you’d hope lights you up
You're not broken. You're not "too much." You just haven't connected the intellectual understanding to the felt experience in your body.
That's what this container does.
What This Is
A 7-week live group experience for men who are ready to stop studying their patterns and start feeling the shift.
We'll use guided somatic experiences that let you step into your family dynamics from multiple perspectives—including your parents'—so you can finally feel what was actually happening instead of just analyzing it. This is what allows the intellectual understanding to drop into your body and become wisdom you can act on.
Here's What We'll Cover:
Weeks 1-3 & 5: Guided Relational Perspective Work
We'll move through four core experiences:
The Blueprint - The relational "vibe" you absorbed growing up, and how your parents' dynamic set the template for what you expect in adult relationships
What Closeness Means - The dynamic you had with the feminine and how it created your associations with intimacy (and the panic or guilt you now feel around closeness)
Your Worth & Safety- What you viscerally learned about your value, safety, and whether you could trust that you were safe, loved, and wanted (this is foundational to how you show up now)
Scarcity & Competition - The felt experience of competing for love and attention, and how it's running in the background of your relationships (making you either anxiously compliant or chronically fighting to be seen)
Week 4: Integration Week No live call. Your only job is to notice what's different - in your body, in how you see familiar dynamics, in how you respond to people you've known for years. The shifts happen without you having to "do" anything differently yet.
Weeks 6-7: Building New Patterns
Live coaching to help you install new habits - pausing before reacting, building somatic tolerance for healthy love, and practicing new responses in real-time before the next wave of holiday interactions.
The Details
When: January 2026
6 live group calls (60-90 minutes each)
What's Included:
6 live group coaching calls
Recordings of all sessions (yours to keep)
Private group chat for support between calls
Integration practices (journal prompts or guided meditations to deepen the work)
Investment: $997 until Dec 31 ($1397 after that)*
Group Size: Limited to 10-12 men so we can maintain depth and personal feel
*Payment options available, email courtneyschandcoaching@gmail.com
What You Can Expect
Immediately:
After the relational perspective work, men typically leave feeling calmer, clearer, and more validated in what they've been perceiving. You'll finally be able to take action on what you know instead of talking yourself out of it. You'll feel like "I can't mess this up"—not from anxiety, but from groundedness.
Over Time:
The results compound for weeks and months after the container ends. You'll notice:
Relationships come off the pedestal - "If she opts out, it's because she wants something different" feels true in your body, not just a mental reframe you're trying to convince yourself of
You catch your patterns in real-time - The impulse to disappear, the guilt around having needs, the ways you've been abandoning yourself become visible, sometimes in the moment, sometimes in hindsight
You feel safe being yourself - You reconnect with parts of yourself you didn't know existed or have been silencing for years. This is what allows you to show up authentically and powerfully instead of performing
You recognize where you need to protect yourself - Not from a place of defensiveness, but from authority. You see where you've been overextending and what boundaries you need to stay regulated
You have a visceral sense that change is possible - Not as a concept, but as a felt reality
This Is For You If:
✓ You've been to therapy, watched all the YouTube videos, read the books—you know your attachment style and can name your patterns but they’re not changing.
✓ You're not looking to be "fixed"—you're looking for refinement in how you apply what you've learned
✓ You recognize you're stuck in the knowing-doing gap and need the somatic piece to integrate all that intellectual understanding
✓ You're willing to spend time in introspection and let yourself feel challenged by what you discover
✓ You're open to feedback and see this as collaboration; you want to know what you're missing
✓ You recognize the pattern—you meet someone with that quality you can't stop thinking about, and you wonder if you'll ever find anyone else "like that" (when really, she's reflecting something you need to develop in yourself)
✓ You've heard other creators talk about how enmeshment with your mom shows up as an inability to stand up for yourself with women and that lands for you
This Is NOT For You If:
✗ You need everything to be literal and can't work with imagination or visualization
✗ You're looking to outsource responsibility for your healing ("just tell me what to do" or "they're just not a good coach")
✗ You need proof before you're willing to try something new—you're not willing to lean in and see what happens
✗ You're blame-oriented and not willing to own your part in the pattern
✗ You're not ready to feel discomfort or sit in the confusion that comes with growth
A Note About Timing
We're starting mid-January and finishing early March for a reason.
You'll have the awareness and the tools to navigate your life differently- to see the dynamics clearly, to stay regulated in your body, to practice showing up as the version of yourself you're becoming instead of regressing into old patterns.
You're not going to be perfect. But you're going to be different. And you're going to know it.
Why This Works When Other Things Haven't
Most men in my world have done a lot of work. But they're still stuck because the work has been intellectual.
Your nervous system doesn't care about frameworks. It responds to felt experience.
The guided somatic work lets you experience the root cause of your most common dynamics in your body - not analyze them, not talk about them, but feel them. By stepping into different perspectives within the dynamic, you get information that your cognitive mind hasn’t been able access and can learn how to read the dynamic, instead of assuming you’re the cause of any discomfort present. When you learn how to read the dynamic, your body finally understands "this isn't about me," and that's when the pressure releases.
The intellectual understanding finally drops in and becomes embodied.
You stop thinking about what you should do and start knowing what to do because your body is finally aligned with your mind.
What's Different in Round 2
Round 1 is almost finished. Here's what I’ve learned:
Everyone now gets 1:1 support. In Round 1, I offered this as an optional VIP upgrade. The men who had 1:1 sessions got significantly better results - they dropped in deeper more quickly, and integrated the work more fully. So in Round 2, everyone gets 2 private sessions with me midway through the container.
Two cohorts available. I'm offering two different meeting times to accommodate different schedules. Same content, different times. You choose what works best for you.
The structure works. Seven weeks with an integration week in the middle is the right rhythm for this depth of work.
I'm keeping what worked and refining based on what I learned.
Frequently Asked Questions
What if I already work with you 1:1? If you're currently a client in The Rebrand or another 1:1 container, this group experience is included as part of your package. You'll receive separate details about joining.
How is this different from The Rebrand? Grounded is the foundation - it gives you body awareness, nervous system regulation, and reduces activation around your deepest patterns with the Masculine and Feminine. The Rebrand is the full recalibration - 6 months of 1:1 support building your capacity for genuine attraction, presence, and decisiveness. Think of Grounded as the nervous system reset. The Rebrand is where you build from that foundation.
What if I can't make every call? Recordings are available within 24 hours of each session. But I encourage you to show up live when you can—there's something powerful about doing this work together in real-time.
How do the two cohorts work? Same content, different meeting times. When you sign up, you'll choose which time works for your schedule. Both groups do the same work, just at different times.
What if I've never done somatic work before? I’ll guide you through the process. Much of our work is similar to a guided relaxation.. The people who get the most out of the process don’t have years of experience with somatic work; they are simply willing to feel some discomfort (that’s how we grow) and be guided through it.
What if I'm not sure I'm ready? Ask yourself: Am I stuck knowing my patterns but can't change them? Am I willing to feel some discomfort? Am I willing to take responsibility for my transformation? If yes to all three, you're ready.
You Already Know If This Is For You
If you've read this far, something in you recognizes this is the missing piece.
You're done intellectualizing.
You're ready to feel the shift.
You’re not alone.
If you have additional questions, feel free to email me at courtneyschandcoaching@gmail.com