You've Been Trying to Think Your Way Into a Different Experience
You know your patterns. You can articulate exactly what you do in relationships - how you lose yourself, how you override your own needs to keep her happy, how you say yes when you mean no, then resent her for things you never told her you needed.
You've studied this. You understand where it comes from. You know it's connected to your family, your childhood, the way you learned to navigate relationships decades ago.
But when you're actually in it - when she expresses a need, when conflict arises, when you feel that pull to abandon yourself - all that knowledge disappears.
You're back in the familiar pattern, wondering why you can't just do what you know you should do.
The Problem Isn't That You Don't Know Enough
The problem is that knowing lives in your head, but your nervous system is running a completely different program.
Your body learned what relationships mean long before you had language for it. You absorbed the "vibe" of your household—how your parents related, what closeness felt like, whether you were safe to be yourself, what you had to do to get attention.
Those patterns are stored somatically. Which is why:
You can know she's not trying to suffocate you, but your chest still tightens when she gets close
You can know you should set boundaries, but something in you shuts down when it's time to speak
You can know this woman is healthy for you, but you feel nothing - while the ones who aren't treating you well light you up
You're not broken. You're not "too much." You just haven't connected the intellectual understanding to the felt experience in your body.
That's what this container does.
What This Is
Grounded: The Embodiment Experience for Men is a 7-week live group program for men who have already done significant inner work and are ready to drop that knowledge into their bodies.
This isn't beginner-level self-discovery. This is integration work - bridging the gap between what you know and what you can actually embody in the moment.
We use guided somatic experiences that let you step into your family dynamics from multiple perspectives—including your parents'—so you can finally feel what was actually happening instead of just analyzing it.
This is what allows the intellectual understanding to drop into your body and become wisdom you can act on.
Here's What We'll Cover:
Weeks 1-3 & 5: Guided Relational Perspective Work
We'll move through four core experiences that reveal the visceral programming running underneath your conscious awareness:
The Blueprint - The relational "vibe" you absorbed growing up, and how your parents' dynamic set the template for what you expect in adult relationships
What Closeness Means - The dynamic you had with the feminine and how it created your associations with intimacy (and the panic or guilt you now feel around closeness)
Your Worth & Safety - What you viscerally learned about your value, safety, and whether you could trust that you were safe, loved, and wanted (this is foundational to how you show up now)
The Audience - Stepping outside your childhood self to witness what you experienced and finally validate your own perception instead of gaslighting yourself about what you felt
Week 4: Integration Week
No live call. Your only job is to notice what's different - in your body, in how you see familiar dynamics, in how you respond to people you've known for years.
This is when the work settles into your nervous system. Men report catching themselves responding differently in situations that used to trigger them - without trying. The shifts happen while you live your life.
Weeks 6-7: Real-Time Recalibration
Live coaching as you navigate your actual life. We help you catch your patterns as they're happening, distinguish what your body is actually telling you vs. what your mind assumes it means, and practice new responses before the next wave of interactions.
This isn't about "installing habits." It's about developing the capacity to recalibrate in the moment - to read what's actually happening in a dynamic instead of assuming you caused the tension, and to self-soothe and self-assure when your old patterns get activated.
The Details
When: February 2026
Thursdays 8pm EST
6 live group calls (75-90 minutes each)
2 private 1:1 sessions with me throughout the container
What's Included:
6 live group coaching calls
2 individual coaching sessions (75 minutes each)
Recordings of all sessions (yours to keep)
Private group chat for support between calls
Integration practices (journal prompts or guided meditations to deepen the work)
Investment: $1497 (payment options available, email courtneyschandcoaching@gmail.com)
Group Size: Limited to 10-12 men so we can maintain depth and personal connection
What You Can Expect
Immediately:
Immediately:
After the relational perspective work, men report a visceral sense of relief - like pressure they've been carrying for decades suddenly releases.
You'll finally be able to validate your own experience instead of gaslighting yourself about what you felt growing up. One participant said (paraphrased): "It was great to learn that many people out there are running a program that does not include my core value (i.e Truth) and it makes sense, now, why my world becomes too much for them."
You'll leave feeling calmer, clearer, and more grounded - able to take action on what you know instead of talking yourself out of it.
Within Weeks:
Your lower body comes online. You feel grounded, stable, present in a way you never have before. One man said: "I am experiencing a pretty steady awareness of this region while standing & walking and am noticing much more stabilization. Such a simple and subtle thing. Who ever knew? This alone is priceless."
People respond to you differently. Not because you're "doing" anything new, but because your nervous system stopped broadcasting the anxious signal it's been putting out. Women notice. One participant reported: "A woman just told me last night that she's noticed that I'm firm with my words and has also pointed out me putting up boundaries, which I noticed was a turn-on for her."
You stop ruminating. The mental loops that kept you up at night dissolve as your nervous system learns to process information viscerally instead of just cognitively. Your mind quiets because your body finally has the information it needs.
You read dynamics instead of causing them. The game-changing shift: learning to sense what's actually happening in the room vs. assuming any tension is your fault. When you stop taking responsibility for everyone else's discomfort, the pressure releases and you can finally stay present.
Over time (the Results Compound):
Less anxiousness in social contexts - You're able to see dynamics and navigate connections more intuitively
You stop sabotaging yourself - You feel innately worthy of what you're going after and, as a result, can show up fully present with the experiences along the way
Relationships come off the pedestal - "If she opts out, it's because she wants something different" feels true in your body, not just a mental reframe you're trying to convince yourself of
You have more capacity to be with the important connections you already have (kids, spouse, family, friends, developing relationships)
You catch your patterns in real-time - The impulse to disappear, the guilt around having needs, the ways you've been abandoning yourself become visible, sometimes in the moment, sometimes in hindsight
You feel comfortable being yourself - You reconnect with parts of yourself you didn't know existed or have been silencing for years. This is what allows you to show up authentically and powerfully instead of performing
Gradual maturing - You see yourself respond not from defensiveness, but from authority. You see where you've been overextending and what boundaries you need to stay regulated and make grounded decisions
You have a visceral sense that change is possible - Not as a concept, but as a felt reality. You see yourself making small, directional shifts that are having big impacts on your daily experience and relationships
Women respond to you differently - Not because you're using tactics or trying harder, but because you're grounded in your own body. When you stop leaking anxious energy and stay present with yourself, women feel it. They relax around you, express interest as you move toward them - without you having to "do" anything differently
This Is For You If:
✓ You've already done significant inner work - therapy, coaching, books, workshops - and you can clearly name your patterns. You're not just discovering you have wounds to work on; you're ready to integrate what you already know
✓ You have some embodiment foundation - whether through movement practices (yoga, dance, martial arts), breathwork, meditation, or other somatic work. You're not completely disconnected from your body; you're ready to deepen that relationship
✓ You're willing to experiment before you have perfect clarity - You can take action, gather data, and adjust based on what you learn. You don't need to know the outcome before you make a move
✓ You value collective growth - You want to be part of a brotherhood doing this work together, learning from other men's breakthroughs as much as your own
✓ You can self-regulate in group settings - You're able to sit with your triggers without needing the group to manage your emotional state. You can hold your experience while staying present to others'
✓ You see this as refinement work, not repair - You're already functional and capable. You're not looking to be "fixed." You want to add mastery and skillfulness to what you're already doing
✓ You can hold nuance and paradox - You're comfortable with "both/and" rather than needing everything to be "either/or." You can let multiple truths coexist
✓ You're willing to be publicly messy - You know that growth happens through vulnerability in community, and you're okay with experimenting and course-correcting in front of other men
✓ You trust your capacity to handle what comes up - You're not looking for someone to rescue you or tell you exactly what to do. You take full ownership of your transformation
✓ You recognize the pattern - You meet someone with that quality you can't stop thinking about, and you wonder if you'll ever find anyone else "like that" (when really, she's reflecting something you need to develop in yourself)
✓ You're not looking to be "fixed" - You're looking for refinement in how you apply what you've learned
✓ You recognize you're stuck in the knowing-doing gap and need the somatic piece to integrate all that intellectual understanding
This Is NOT For You If:
✗ You're just beginning your inner work journey - If you haven't done therapy or significant self-reflection yet, if you're just realizing you have patterns to work on, you'll want to start there first. This container will move too fast for discovery-phase work
✗ You're completely disconnected from your body - If you've never done any somatic or movement practice (breathwork, yoga, dance, martial arts, meditation, etc.), you'll need to build foundational body awareness before this work will land
✗ You need extensive 1:1 processing time - If you struggle with group dynamics, need a lot of individual attention to metabolize anything, or prefer pure 1:1 support, start with The Rebrand (individual coaching) instead
✗ You intellectualize emotions as a primary defense - If you talk ABOUT feelings instead of feeling them, if analysis is how you avoid discomfort, you'll need to develop the capacity to actually feel before this integration work will be effective
✗ You need to be "right" in conversations - If you struggle to let other perspectives coexist with yours, if you debate to win rather than to understand, you'll need to work on this 1:1 before group work
✗ You need everything to be literal - You can't work with imagination or visualization
✗ You're looking to outsource responsibility for your healing - "Just tell me what to do" or "they're just not a good coach" energy won't serve you here
✗ You need proof before you're willing to try something new - You're not willing to lean in and see what happens
✗ You're blame-oriented - Not willing to own your part in the pattern
✗ You're not ready to feel discomfort - Or sit in the confusion that comes with growth
A Note About Timing
We're starting in February and finishing early March for a reason.
You'll have the awareness and the tools to navigate your life differently- to see the dynamics clearly, to stay regulated in your body, to practice showing up as the version of yourself you're becoming instead of regressing into old patterns.
You're not going to be perfect. But you're going to be different. And you're going to know it.
Why This Works When Other Things Haven't
Most men in my world have done a lot of work. But they're still stuck because the work has been intellectual.
Your nervous system doesn't care about frameworks. It responds to felt experience.
The guided somatic work lets you experience the root cause of your most common dynamics in your body - not analyze them, not talk about them, but feel them.
By stepping into different perspectives within the dynamic, you get information your cognitive mind hasn't been able to access. You learn how to read the dynamic instead of assuming you're the cause of any discomfort present.
When you learn to read the dynamic, your body finally understands "this isn't about me," and that's when the pressure releases.
The intellectual understanding finally drops in and becomes embodied.
You stop thinking about what you should do and start knowing what to do because your body is finally aligned with your mind.
What Makes This Different: The Brotherhood Effect
You don't just get coached in this container - you get to witness other men having their breakthroughs in real-time.
When one man realizes his lower body is coming online and women are responding differently to him, you learn what visceral shift created that change.
When another experiments with opening his sensory presence in challenging situations, you get to see the data he gathers and how he metabolizes it.
When a third shares how his movement practice taught him about containment, you get a new way to practice the same principle.
This is what separates group work from 1:1 coaching - you're not just learning from your own experience, you're learning from every man's journey in the room.
The men who get the most from this container are those who can both receive support and offer insights to others. Who value being witnessed in their growth and witnessing others in theirs.
If you're looking for individual attention about your situation, The Rebrand (6-month 1:1 program) would be a better fit. But if you're energized by collective growth and peer learning, this container will accelerate your development in ways individual work can't.
What's Different in Round 2
Round 1 is finished. Here's what I've learned:
Everyone now gets 1:1 support. In Round 1, I offered this as an optional upgrade. The men who had 1:1 sessions got significantly better results, faster - they dropped in deeper more quickly, and integrated the work more fully. So in Round 2, everyone gets 2 private sessions with me throughout the container to help tailor the distinctions to your situation.
Two cohorts available. I'm offering two different meeting times to accommodate different schedules. Same content, different times. You choose what works best for you.
The structure works. Seven weeks with an integration week in the middle is the right rhythm for this depth of work. Nervous system work takes time - there's no way around that. But the distinctions these men experienced opened them up. As one participant said: "It was really more progress than I have ever made in a fairly short time."
I'm keeping what worked and refining based on what I learned.
Frequently Asked Questions
What if I already work with you 1:1?
If you're currently a client in The Rebrand or another 1:1 container, this group experience is included as part of your package. You'll receive separate details about joining.
How is this different from The Rebrand?
Grounded is foundational - it gives you body awareness, the ability to open your perception and start allowing your natural presence to come online, and reduces activation around your deepest patterns with the Masculine and Feminine.
The Rebrand is the full recalibration - 6 months of 1:1 support building your capacity for genuine attraction, presence, and decisiveness.
Because your ability to "see" and navigate interpersonal dynamics depends largely on how grounded you can stay in each situation, the awareness you open to within Grounded serves as both a stand-alone skill and a building block within the larger framework we teach in The Rebrand.
What if I can't make every call?
Recordings are available within 24 hours of each session. But I encourage you to show up live when you can - there's something powerful about doing this work together in real-time. The collective field accelerates individual breakthroughs.
How do the two cohorts work?
Same content, different meeting times. When you sign up, you'll choose which time works for your schedule. Both groups do the same work, just at different times.
What if I've never done somatic work before?
I'll guide you through the process - much of our work is similar to a guided relaxation.
That said, if you're completely disconnected from your body and have never explored any embodiment practices (movement, breathwork, meditation, etc.), you'll want to build some foundational body awareness before joining this container.
The men who get the most out of this aren't those with years of somatic experience - they're simply those who are willing to feel some discomfort (that's how we grow) and have some baseline capacity to be with their bodily sensations.
What if I'm not sure I'm ready?
Ask yourself these three questions:
Have I done enough inner work that I can clearly name my patterns and know where they come from?
Do I have some relationship with my body (through any kind of movement, breathwork, or somatic practice)?
Am I willing to experiment before I have perfect clarity, be vulnerable in a group setting, and take full ownership of my transformation?
If yes to all three, you're ready.
If no to any of them, you'll want to build those foundations first - either through therapy, individual coaching, or foundational embodiment work. Or book a Discovery Call below and we can talk about it.
You Already Know If This Is For You
If you've read this far, something in you recognizes this is the missing piece.
You're done intellectualizing.
You're ready to feel the shift.
You're not alone.
But let's be real: This isn't for everyone.
This is for men who've already started the hard work of self-awareness and are ready to integrate it into their bodies.
This is for men who have some relationship with their bodies already and want to deepen that connection.
This is for men who value collective growth and are willing to be vulnerable in community.
If that's you, I'd love to have you in the room.
If you have questions about whether you're ready for this container, or if individual work would be a better starting point, book a Discovery Call or email me at courtneyschandcoaching@gmail.com.